I’m writing this while sick in bed, so please forgive any messiness. My mind is a mess too.
My husband is a good man—sensitive, loyal, amazing with my kids. But his ex-wife is slowly destroying our marriage, and I don’t know how much longer I can hold on.
Let me start at the beginning.
When we met, I was a single mother of two, fresh out of a divorce. He was a single father of three, three years out from his own. I asked him why his marriage ended. He told me his ex cheated on him—right in front of him at a meet‑and‑greet with a famous artist. She disappeared while he was in the bathroom. When he finally got answers, she told him he wasn’t satisfying her in bed, that she got bored, and she’d taken her chance to fulfill her fantasies.
He was a virgin when they met. She took that from him. I was skeptical at first, but I did my homework, and I decided to give him a chance.
Best decision I ever made. He was amazing. And over many months, I taught him everything he knows about sex. Now he’s a pro. Our life together felt like a second chance for both of us.
Then we moved to Florida.
The Ex Who Won’t Go Away
We relocated two years ago. Before that, we lived in New York. His ex was in Wyoming, so the distance kept her manageable. But when we moved south, she followed. Suddenly she was close enough to become a daily presence in our lives.
I handle all the finances in our home. He tells me what to send her for child support and allowances, and I do it. But it’s never enough for her. She calls at odd hours, telling him she misses him. She sends inappropriate photos. She uses their kids—three sons—as weapons.
My husband is sensitive. I saw the risk immediately. I worried he might start developing feelings for her again. To his credit, he gave me full access to all his devices, every password, everything. He wanted me to feel secure.
I blocked her numbers. I deleted her photos. I told our friends and family what was happening. I begged him to get a restraining order.
He refused. “I don’t want anything to affect my relationship with my kids,” he said.
So she kept pushing.
The Kiss
A month ago, she called saying her oldest son was really sick. My husband insisted we go. The boy wasn’t answering his phone—he’s 16—and my husband was worried.
When we arrived, she hurried up to him and kissed him on the cheek. Right in front of me.
My husband told her firmly to back off, then asked me to stay calm. I tried. But then she looked me straight in the eye and said, “We’re both his wives. There’s nothing you can do about it.”
I felt like I’d been punched.
A few days ago, she took it even further. She texted my husband, trying to seduce him into sleeping with her so she could have another child. She already has three sons. Now she wants a daughter.
He didn’t respond. He just showed me the message and told me to reply.
I was furious. But I’m also terrified.
Why I Can’t Let Go
I know what some people will say: He’s not setting boundaries. He’s letting this happen. But here’s what you need to understand.
My ex‑husband left me and our two young children for his business partner. He started a new family and never looked back. I’ve never asked him for anything.
My current husband? He treats my children like his own. He raises them, loves them, provides for them. I never thought I’d find someone like him. That’s why I’m fighting so hard.
But I’m exhausted. I feel like I’m losing my mind. The constant calls, the manipulation, the way she uses their kids to pull him back in—it’s wearing me down.
My Ultimatum
I hate to sound selfish, but I’m at my breaking point. I’ve laid down the law in my own mind: either we move back to New York and get away from her, or our marriage is over.
Am I wrong? Is there another way to save this?
I’m not looking for pity. I’m looking for clarity. Because right now, I don’t even know what’s real anymore.
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